Cleaning + a toddler = never going to happen

Sorry I haven’t written in a while but it’s been a crazy time. We thought we were over the illness so he went back to childcare, which I thought great I get all my house work done which I did do in half the time as there was no child to chase after or keep away from the cleaning products. To be honest as it got done so quickly at some points I didn’t know what to do with my time. However he had a little incident and fell sick again. So another trip to the doctors and another day at home for him. The first day was fine, as he was a little sluggish. So today he got sent home from childcare as they said his fever hadn’t been cleared for 24 hours. Even though he was perfectly fine.. and even at home today he was perfectly fine. And as he knew that he got to leave from childcare today, he was acting up so much. Honestly I tried to fold all the clothes in his room, nope couldn’t do that. I literally remembered how any possible tasks becomes impossible when there is a child in the house. Cooking, I had to get my husband to look after him & help me as he was going crazy for attention from both of us. I was washing the dishes and as I wasn’t giving him attention he throw his shoe in to the sink! 

Honestly as much as I love the kid, and just want to squeeze and kiss him all day he can be right pain when he makes a simple 10 minute task last hours! 

Hopefully he will go tomorrow & I can have one day to do all my cleaning! 

X 

Illness

So the little monkey is sick, and I don't mean it's serious but like got a horrible cold/flu. The cough is worst, as the poor little baby can't even tell us what's exactly wrong. He came in to my bed late this morning and bless him fell asleep in my arms. My poor husband had to lie in a very awkward position just so that the little lamb could be comfortable. He was fast asleep, until his retched cough woke him up. He is was horrible to see him sleeping and crying whilst he was still trying to stay asleep and then coughing non stop. My husband quickly picked him up but all he wanted was me his "mumma". After a few cuddles he was back asleep. We lasted 30 minutes in that position until he woke again and he gestured to me the whole route to his parents room, which incidentally is very close to the front door. So through tears he stopped and looked at the front door and his parents bedroom door only to try to convince me to let him out.

He was more upset with me when I started to walk away from the front door as I wasn't taking him out. Kids do make me laugh, no matter how ill they are, they are always ready to go.

So as we were walking back to the kitchen his mum came out and the crying did ease.

It is horrible to see them so ill, but honestly the hardest part is trying to understand what they want and sometimes even I surprise myself when I guess what he wants. I guess this aunt is getting full mummy training thanks to my 14 month old nephew!

Massie to Mumma

Hello everyone,

I thought to myself as I love to blog and I wanted to start something new through that avenue then why not start blogging about my life as aunt but or as my 14 month old nephew sees it that I’m his ‘mum’. When he was born in Australia me and the little guy use to FaceTime all the time as I was in dear old England. He then came at the tender age of 6 months to England for my wedding. We spent 4 months together, and that’s when it started. When auntie or massie as we say in Punjabi morphed in to mum, mamma.. or whatever was easy with an ‘m’ sound to say. He then left England & I decided after a month or so of him leaving to come to Australia with my husband. We of course came and stayed with my sister & her family! My nephew over the past three months has decided himself that he has two mothers. The first one of course his mother who gave him birth. The main mother who was there from day 1. And then there is me, the second mummy. The one we refuse to call massie, only known as mumma or nonna.!

I don’t want kids. Don’t get me wrong they are cute & adorable but they can be so testing at times. And before anyone says it, it’s just a phase in your life. Well actually it’s not, me and my husband have discussed & feel we don’t want or need them. It’s not something we crave or desire. But to be honest when my nephew already treats me like his mum, I don’t need that from another child.

And yes he will grow up & become independent (which he already thinks he is now) and will change his attitude towards me I still would be ok without kids.

I’ve seen everyone say the negative & then always say a positive. And that’s fine. That’s how you feel about kids because firstly you wanted them & secondly you have them now. You learn to love them. It’s like anything once it comes in to your life it’s hard to imagine life without.

There are pros & cons of being a ‘mum’ to a child who is convinced he has two mothers. I love it when I have a sad day & his cheeky smile brightens it up. Or the way he comes and sits next to me, rests his hand on mine, and gives me a look like it’s ok. I love the way he can laugh at the most random and uninteresting object. I love how he has to have cuddles & kisses... amongst so many other things. However sometimes I wish he would let me go to the bathroom, where that be a pee, or even a shower instead of knocking the door constantly. I wish he wouldn’t open my bedroom door first thing in the morning & drag me out of bed. Or open the door wide whilst in midst getting change. I wish sometimes I could eat one meal without him either trying to eat it for me or sitting in my lap. I know it sounds like I’m moaning, but I just feel like sometimes I much as I love that kid he would just do that with his mum.

I love my nephew dearly, who basically it seems is also my son. But sometimes I wish he would just chill out and let me do something in peace! I didn’t choose this but I’ve accepted it.

I just hate it when people have kids & cant look after them. Complain about, moan about them.. it’s like look! I didn’t have kids but ended up with one anyways. And I’ve accepted the difficult paths it sometimes brings but at the end of the day all that child wants is just a kiss & a cuddle. And you watch everything else just falls in to place..

Thanks for reading!

From a crazy aunt to turned in to mother thanks to her nephew!